Without mincing word, sex is an important aspect of every close-relationship between man and woman. No doubt, relationship (marriage) where either the man or woman complain about the sex life of his/her partner is heading to the rock.
Below are major cause why many man/woman lament or lack active sexual life.
Some people do many things well when they’re stressed. Feeling sexy usually isn’t one of them. Stress at work, home, or in relationships can happen to anyone. Learning how to handle it in a healthy way really helps. You can do a lot of it yourself, and a counselor or doctor can also help.
- Partner Problems
Problems with your partner are among the top sex-drive killers. For women, feeling close is a major part of desire. For both sexes, watch for fallout from fights, poor communication, feeling betrayed, or other trust issues. If it’s tricky to get back on track, reach out to a couples counselor.
A drink may make you feel more open to sex. But too much alcohol can numb your sex drive. Being drunk can also be a turn-off for your partner. If you have trouble drinking less, seek help.
- Too Little Sleep
If your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you’re not getting enough sleep. Do you go to bed too late or rise too early? Do you have a sleep problem like trouble falling or staying asleep, or a condition such as sleep apnea? Anything that messes with a good night’s rest can mess with sex. Fatigue saps sexy feelings. Work on your sleep habits, and if that doesn’t help, talk to your doctor.
- Having Kids
You don’t lose your sex drive once you’re a parent. However, you do lose some time to be close with kids under foot. Hire a babysitter to nurture some time to be partners as well as parents. New baby? Try sex during baby’s nap time.
Some drugs can turn down desire. They include some of these types of medications:
- Blood pressure medications
- Birth control pills (some studies show a link; others don’t)
- Anti-HIV drugs
Switching drugs or dosages may help — ask your doctor about that and never stop taking any medicine on your own. Tell your doctor, too, if your sex drive stalls soon after you start taking a new drug.
- Poor Body Image
Feeling sexy is easier if you like how you look. Work on accepting your body as it is today, even if you’re working to get in shape. Feeling good about yourself can put you in the mood. If your partner has low esteem, assure them that they’re sexy.
When you’re overweight or obese, desire often dims. It could be that you don’t enjoy sex, can’t perform like you want to, or are held back by low self-esteem. Working on how you feel about yourself, with a counselor if needed, may make a big difference.
- Erection Problems
Men with ED (erectile dysfunction) often worry about how they will be able to perform sexually, and that worry can drain their desire. ED can be treated, and couples can also work to keep it from affecting their relationship.
- Low “T”
The “T” hormone, testosterone, fuels sex drive. As men age, their T levels may drop a bit. Not all lose the desire for sex as this happens, but some do. Many other things — from relationships to weight — also affect a man’s sex drive and testosterone levels, so there’s not a one-size-fits-all answer for every man.
Being depressed can shut off pleasure in many things, including sex. That’s one of many reasons to get help. If your treatment involves medication, tell your doctor if your sex drive is low, since some (but not all) depression drugs lower sex drive. Talk about it with your therapist, too.
For many women, sex drive dims around menopause. That’s partly about symptoms such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex. But every woman is different, and it’s possible to have a great sex life after menopause by tending to your relationship, self esteem, and overall health.
- Lack of Closeness
Sex without feeling close can slay desire. Intimacy is more than just sex. If your sex life is idling, try spending more non-sexual time together, just the two of you. Talk, snuggle, trade massages. Find ways to express love without having sex. Getting closer can rebuild your sex drive.
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